On Worry and Stress

 Today I am late. for work. I also just missed a bus connection. The physiological stress symptoms such as faster heart rate would help if I was in a rush to get anywhere specific, but I’m already at the bus stop I need. I once read a quote, “Worrying does not stop the bad things from happening, but it can stop you from enjoying the good.” And The Dalai lama once said
“If a problem can be solved, no need to worry about it. If a problem cannot be solved what is the use of worrying ?” I have been late before. I know by experience, I may be scolded, but I will not be fired. I’ve also shown up late for doctor appointments and know that I will still be seen, but may have a longer wait, or will need to rebook. Life happens. Things will be resolved.
All I can do is sit with the discomfort and ruminate over how it will look for me when I arrive with a negative perspective, or I can spend that energy being productive by enjoying my surroundings (I got to see a beautiful sunrise, went to McDonald’s for breakfast while I waited for the next bus, and even went to the bank) I also called my boss to tell him where I was, and already had a plan for him for how I could make up for the loss time.

The more we can see that we will be alright in the end and can handle different kinds of stressful situations, the more we can rewire those “neuro pathways in the mind “ that help us to cope much easier in the future . Those 10/10 days where you hyperventilate , ruminate and want to cry will slowly turn into mild anxiousness, deep breathing , and planning next steps /problem solve.


Believe in your Goodness

Lets acknowledges how difficult it is for many of us to believe in our goodness. We more easily take our worst fears and thoughts to be who we are, the unacknowledged traits called our “shadow”. “Curiously, people resist the noble aspects of their shadow more strenuously than they hide the dark sides. . . . It is more disrupting to find that you have a profound nobility of character than to find out you are a bum.” *****
Our belief in a limited and impoverished identity is such a strong habit that without it we are afraid we wouldn’t know how to be. If we fully acknowledged our dignity, it could lead to radical life changes. It could ask something huge of us. And yet some part of us knows that the frightened and damaged self is not who we are. Each of us needs to find our way to be whole and free
-Jack Kornfield