Self Esteem and Loneliness Worksheet

Sometimes people who are lonely are either unable or unwilling to attend social functions, or to meet new people because they have low levels of self-esteem. In order to meet new people and develop and maintain effective relationships, they need to see themselves as valuable human beings.

Complete the following chart by identifying positive accomplishments, talents, tasks that come easy to you, and character traits.

 

My Accomplishments (Ex: Work, family, community activities, hobbies, etc)

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My gifts (Ex: Talents from all aspects of my life)

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Things That Come Easy To Me (Ex: What I can do easily and well)

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My Good Character Traits (Ex: Punctual, good listener, honest, etc.)

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Reverse Your Negative Thinking

People who experience loneliness often take too much time to dwell on their negative thoughts about themselves and their lives. The good news is that it is possible to turn your negative thinking into more positive thinking.

In a table below, journal your experiences with your negative thoughts. One way to do this is to be mindful of what is happening in your own mind. In this case, mindfulness is simply attending to the stream of thoughts that go through your head when you are lonely. Look at an example:

Negative thoughts in my head: “People just don’t like me.”

Feelings that follow: Low self-esteem, emptiness, fear, hopleness.

What is the evidence? There is probably no evidence that people don’t like you. Some people connect with you. You will be able to make new friends if you try. Everyone is in contact with people who connect with them and people who don’t.

How can I reverse my thinking: “I have had friends in the past and I will again.” ” I will make friends if I don’t give up and if I continue engaging in social activities, where I can meet new people!”

Now that you have the formula for successfully reversing your negative thinking, try it!

Negative Thoughts in My Head

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Feelings That I show

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What is the Evidence?

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How I can Reverse My Thinking

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What negative thoughts do you have about social situations?

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When and where do you usually have negative thoughts? Why do you think this happened?

What can you do about it?

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**Reference: Pls note: I did not write this. This material is from the OTMH in Oakville, ON as well as Whole Person Associates.
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